I’ve written before on the importance of good relationships, for example:
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I love these seven tips on relationships and the quotes presented in the above post. They are definately worth working through:

1. Be open to new people.

2. Be wary of building walls.

3. Learn to like yourself.

4. Your relationships are in your mind.

5. Give value instead of the other way around.

6. Share with someone.

7. Genuineness is the key.

Interpersonal relationships are dynamic systems that change continuously during their existence. Like living organisms, relationships have a beginning, a lifespan, and an end. They tend to grow and improve gradually, as people get to know each other and become closer emotionally, or they gradually deteriorate as people drift apart and form new relationships with others. One of the most influential models of relationship development was proposed by psychologist, George Levinger.

This model was formulated to describe heterosexual, adult romantic relationships, but it has been applied to other kinds of interpersonal relations as well. According to the model, the natural development of a relationship follows five stages:

1. Acquaintance – Becoming acquainted depends on previous relationships, physical proximity, first impressions, and a variety of other factors. If two people begin to like each other, continued interactions may lead to the next stage, but acquaintance can continue indefinitely.

2. Buildup – During this stage, people begin to trust and care about each other. The need for compatibility and such filtering agents as common background and goals will influence whether or not interaction continues.

3. Continuation – This stage follows a mutual commitment to a long term friendship, romantic relationship, or marriage. It is generally a long, relative stable period. Nevertheless, continued growth and development will occur during this time. Mutual trust is important for sustaining the relationship.

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4. Deterioration – Not all relationships deteriorate, but those that do tend to show signs of trouble. Boredom, resentment, and dissatisfaction may occur, and individuals may communicate less and avoid self-disclosure. Loss of trust and betrayals may take place as the downward spiral continues.

5. Termination – The final stage marks the end of the relationship, either by death in the case of a healthy relationship, or by separation.”

Here are the quotes:

“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.”
Anthony Robbins

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one”
C.S Lewis

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
Anais Nin

“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.”
Joseph F. Newton Men

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”It is of practical value to learn to like yourself. Since you must spend so much time with yourself you might as well get some satisfaction out of the relationship.”
Norman Vincent Peale

“As you think so shall you be! Since you cannot physically experience another person, you can only experience them in your mind. Conclusion: All of the other people in your life are simply thoughts in your mind. Not physical beings to you, but thoughts. Your relationships are all in how you think about the other people of your life. Your experience of all those people is only in your mind. Your feelings about your lovers come from your thoughts. For example, they may in fact behave in ways that you find offensive. However, your relationship to them when they behave offensively is not determined by their behavior, it is determined only by how you choose to relate to that behavior. Their actions are theirs, you cannot own them, you cannot be them, you can only process them in your mind.”
Wayne Dyer

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“It is not he who reviles or strikes you who insults you, but your opinion that these things are insulting.”


“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.”
Anthony Robbins

“Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.”
Swedish Proverb

“Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations. Don’t over-analyse your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.”
Leo F. Buscaglia

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How do you develop trust and build relationships; create a “Thank God It’s Monday!” work culture; focus on distinction rather than competition; deliver a superior customer experience; and lead effectively through change? By inspiring others! Read on to see how you achieve this ….

Every job is a self-potrait of the person who does it. Autograph your work with excellence.

1. Be inspired yourself

If you’re uninspired think of what could lift your mood, for example memories, people you knew who inspired you, music, and fictional characters. If you’re not inspired, don’t try to inspire others – it won’t work

2. Set the mood rather than being led by it

Be more energetic, more controlled, more measured or whatever you think is needed to establish an inspirational mood

3. Use language which is passionate and expressive

Give answers that provide more than what is needed:’An excellent book – it was practical as well as an easy read’ rather than ‘Yes, it was fine’

4. Frame what you say in a positive and constructive way

This applies even if what you have to say is negative: It was a difficult meeting but a useful rehearsal for the ones that will really matter.’

5. Have a reason which is beyond achieving a target

‘Giving people great holidays’ is more inspirational than meeting a tour operator’s sales objective – although a bonus for hitting the goal may motivate too! As individuals we need a reason or purpose beyond targets to inspire us

6. Focus on the future

If you refer to the past, do so to draw lessons that will help achieve the ‘purpose’ rather than pointing out mistakes or harking back to better times

7. Smile, laugh, and show your sense of humour

It will help to lift spirits

8. Be irreverent

Inspirational people do things that bend the rules and ignore conventions.This may upset traditionalists but will give hope to those who believe there might be a better way, ie most of us!

9. Keep it going

Inspirational people are inspirational all the time – not just for formal change programmes.

What do you think? Have I missed any points? Please leave your comments below:

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“The nail that sticks up gets hammered down,” is a common refrain in Japanese business. So it is pleasing to report the success of a business leader who breaks the mould. Young, dynamic and clever, Kosaku Shima is not afraid to push aside old conservatives. He disdains corporate politics and promotes people based on merit rather than seniority. He can make mistakes, but he is wildly popular among Japan’s “salarymen” and, in June, he was given the top job at one of the country’s biggest firms. Mr Shima has only one serious shortcoming: he is not a real person, but a manga cartoon character. For many critics of Japan, that says it all. In the real world, few in business say what they think because “it might disrupt the harmony or be seen as immodest”; and most rely on consensus to make decisions. The result is a culture with little risk-taking or initiative, in which decisions are made slowly, if at all.

Kosaku Shima is an inspiration. Japan would be transformed if more learned to emulate him.